"Network! , put yourself out there!" They say. But Jane Doe is a rather shy techie, socially awkward at public gatherings and would rather stay indoors thinking of all the possible ways to get paid as a couch potato🌚. My Fellow Jane Doe(s), this article will highlight steps to help you network better, especially in public spaces.
When I recently joined twitter, I was very reluctant to put up any public post on my page, or even comment on public posts for obvious reasons. I basked in all the chaos(I'm a peaceful person, but I enjoy chaos in healthy doses. Especially as a spectator) and fun in ghost mode. But then I understood that the people I was overly conscious of, were just like me, and nobody would beat me for posting on my page. I put out public posts since then, until I became comfortable.
First things first, you need to acknowledge that networking is very important in building a good career in tech. Think of it as marketing and promotion for a product. The product is your skills, and people cannot buy what they don't know about. Now you don't need to kiss people's asses per se, you just want to make people know that a certain Jane Doe exists some where that builds wonderful websites, so that in spaces you don't have access to, they could refer you and put in good words for you. One of the best ways to put yourself out there as a beginner in tech is to attend tech events. Find tech events happening around you, and plan to attend. When attending a tech event for the first time:
Find a partner to go with
Going with company can boost your confidence in various ways, especially if your partner is a social butterfly. You can ride on their wave and feel less awkward. You can find people going for the same event by asking questions in your community group chats, on twitter etc. The worst that can happen is that you will get snubbed(an unlikely outcome), you won't lose anything, I promise.
Dress Smartly
There's a level of confidence that comes with dressing well, and in a style you are comfortable with. Looks can attract or make people repulsive to you, and you want the former. I'm not a Fashion adviser, but I feel wearing modestly bright colors does something. I mean, in a world full of darkness, be the light🌚 (You can ignore this please). I would also recommend Tee shirts with catchy phrases. You could get at least 10 people smiling at you😊.
Be Early
It is always advisable to be early at events. Going early to events help you settle in well, and get comfortable before the event gets rowdy. Walking in late makes it more awkward for you, especially if it's your first time. Get in early, find a comfortable seat and possibly get a buddy before the event kicks off.
Initiate Conversations
Now, this might be the hardest, but you don't sit around waiting to be approached. A good way to start Conversations is by paying people compliments. Everyone likes to receive compliments. If the person was a speaker at the event, a good way to initiate a conversation is to compliment their delivery and tell them how their session impacted you. Even if you went to the event alone, saying a 'hello' to person seated next to you could get you a partner, and make you more comfortable. In conversing with people, be sure to maintain eye contact and avoid looking downwards.
Give room for the relationships to grow
After meeting people and initiating Conversations, what next? Exchange numbers, social media handles, ask to take pictures for memory, and keep in touch. You don't have to do too much, just keep communication alive from time to time. Celebrate with them on special occasions, wish them well on birthdays etc. That way, they keep you in mind.
In conclusion, as cliche as it sounds, change begins in the mind. Be intentional about putting yourself out there, and be bold while at it. Go Jane and John!🥳 Thank you for reading. Until next time.